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How have ya’ll handled social media transition pre/post unveiling?
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Hi everyone! I’m finally getting ready to live as myself out in the open, and have been thinking about the best way to handle social media.
I’ve generally not been very active, but now I have A LOT more to say to the world than I use to.
My profiles have generally languished for years with ancient profile pics, friends from grade school that I don’t remember, and tons of stuff that is just not me anymore.
At a basic level, did you start fresh and build a new social network around your new identity? Did you want to preserve a sense of history and continuity from your previous self? What might be some other things to consider?
I’d love to hear how ya’ll have handled it, and I’d also love to hear any interesting stories or experiences too!
Thanks
Top Comment: I've rehabbed my stagnant Instagram and made it my main platform for irl family and friends, and essentially my global coming out since a lot of people i knew have seen me change 🤷♀️
Wanting to delete all social media but afraid I’ll stay out of the loop. - 13yo
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I’m still young and trying to interact with those my age and I worry that if I delete everything now (after being chronically online for most of my life) I will lose the relatability I have and my social identity will be more lackluster.
Any advice for me? I definitely want to do it since I’m passionate about doing something but I still don’t know what.
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Honestly I think the added time and energy you’ll get from getting off of social media will increase your sociability. Also the things on social media don’t matter. Irs better to read multiple books on several different subjects than waste your time and energy on useless brain rot and semi education videos.
What are some social rituals that baffle you? I'll start.
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"Bless you."
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Small talk. I see it as two people who don't want to talk to each other talking to each other. I'm further baffled by the way some people are turned off by the fact that I quickly begin discussing heavier subjects whenever I meet them in say, a party setting.
I feel like social anxiety will never go away. And I’ll eventually kill myself because of it.
Main Post: I feel like social anxiety will never go away. And I’ll eventually kill myself because of it.
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Oh, sweetheart, I am so sorry to hear of your struggles. I wish I could give you a long hug. I wish I could be with you to cry with you and bring you warm chocolate chip cookies and hot cocoa or coffee or whatever you like to drink. Please, please don't kill yourself. You are so valued and needed in this world. If you think you aren't because you struggle to talk with people, I ask you- how many dogs, cats, and other pets have you given your love in your life? Just a few pats makes their day. You helped them live a happier life. 🥰 However, with saying this, you do not need a purpose to live!! You. Deserve. To. Live. To laugh. To experience the rain on your skin. To eat a greasy burger. To cry, to hate, to love, to change, to grow, to fail, to succeed, and everything else. I don't know if you believe in God or the universe or karma or whatever. But out of all the people that could have been born, you were created!! I strongly believe that our lives are not meaningless. YOU are not meaningless. I struggled with social anxiety for a very long time as well. And I still do. I thought it would never get better, even with meds. But it has slowly gotten better. For me, I found out that I have ADHD. You might want to find out if you are neurodivergent too, since we tend to struggle with socializing. If you ever need to chat, I am open. 😊
Faith_Bian Announced on Social Media that He'll Officially Retire After TI 11
Below pls see the translated text of what he said in the post:
TI10 true vision is right around the corner, and now I think it's the right time to post my thoughts on the TI 10 grand finals, which was written 10 days after it happened, hoping that this will bring new perspectives into the community. All my fellow teammates have all gone through what I wrote and agreed with what I wrote at that time. However, the article was not posted because the org. was afraid there could be some serious backfire on the community(note: the community was extremely toxic after LGD's loss again TS in the TI10 grand final)
By the way, I'll retire permanently from Dota2, saying goodbye to the competitive s scene and open up a new chapter in my life. I've been thinking about this for a while and I think it's the right thing to do, though inevitably with a little bit of regret.
For now, I just wanted to say, to both my teammates and my opponents, that I am more than determined for the matches to come. As a pro player, I'll do everything I can do, and make every endeavor possible, whatever the final results. As long as I did that, I'll have no regret even if I ended in last place in TI.
P.S. There's also 5 screen shots of his opinions on TI10 grand finals, which is quite long. If any of you guys are interested, I could help translate, pls let me know if you guys are interested.
Top Comment: Here's the translation of what he said: First, let’s address the elephant in the room: the finals. I found out from friends as well as occasionally going on the internet that many fans were unable to accept the fact that we lost and chose to believe that the games were fixed. I thought about it and honestly it is quite understandable, since I do not want to even go back and watch the replays myself because there were too many stupid mistakes from our gameplay and decisions. Some suggested to me to make an analysis of the games which may help with all the hate, which I thought would be a good idea, however as mentioned before I do not want to watch the replays. I still want to do it however, so I’ll do a writeup from what I remember. Let’s talk about what we prepared before the match. Just as y’ said on his post, for the first game we wanted to pick io if it was available, and that’s how we planned our bans as well. What we did differently than planned however was to second pick our pos 1. Before we’ve always second picked our mid hero to keep our teamfights strong during midgame, then picking the carry on 23 or 16/17. Because lycan/ursa combo is not very ideal, plus the fact that we needed to address there naga pick, there was a lot of pressure on our last pick. We had a choice between void spirit and pango and we decided to go with the pango as NTS wanted to try it. Since our picks were based around counterpicking rather than synergy between heroes (for example ame saw ET and tide so he wanted to pick ursa, we picked lycan after seeing them pick lion on 15) we needed to play well individually to win, which unfortunately we did not. After the loss we all knew we made a lot of mistakes. However, at the time I thought that this was within expectations from our discussions before the match started. We knew that they had an advantage going into the finals as Spirit was already warmed up and in the zone since they had just played a bo3, and they had a lot less on their mind compared to us. We all agreed that we lost game 1 because we performed poorly individually and that there was nothing wrong with out strategy of picking io first. And so we decided to do the same thing for g2. What went wrong with g2 was that we failed to pick our heroes around the strengths of io. I take a lot of responsibility for this loss. Spirits first two phases of bans and picks as well as third phase bans were within expectations for us. We had our io/lesh which we were comfortable playing into their bane/mag. After they had picked willow on 15, we knew there was a strong possibility that they would pick morph next since yatoro’s morph is quite good, so we picked the morph/shaker combo following xiao8’s suggestion. Even though it wasn’t our best choice here, it was still fine as long as it won us the game. Where the mistake happened was the np last pick, which meant that io would be pos 5, which was the way we were most unfamiliar with playing the hero. What the prophet pick gave us was that if we played well as 4, we would be able to get a huge lead early-mid game, then once morph shaker combo comes online we would be able to easily finish the game. So why did I say this was my fault? Firstly, we only picked prophet after I had agreed to it. I did not have my current understanding of io/shaker support duo at the time, so I thought prophet would be fine playing together with them. Secondly, we did not play the prophet/shaker lane very well, and luna got an early level 3, meaning that we were no longer able to apply much pressure to her. Lesh also was not strong enough after laning stage to come top to push with us. Lesh did not have an ideal lane due to us as well, as the bane in our lane was able to leave the luna alone and help control runes for their mid. This had a big effect on our early mid game, which meant we were not able to play to our heroes’ timings, especially on my prophet. I only realised this after watching the replays and ame pointed out that luna got to level 3 way too easily. G3 was probably the game with the most pressure for us. We were playing from 2-0 down, so we needed to be confident in ourselves from right at the beginning during bans/picks. Just before the game started, we huddled as a group and xiao8 encouraged us by saying that “We are already backed into a corner, so do not be afraid and just play your best.” We then said as a team: ‘three two one lets go!’ to cheer ourselves up, which really did help a lot. The match started, and we decided we wanted second pick. The draft went as we thought it would, they first picked mag then we picked rubick undying. They then picked willow, and everything up till second phase picks was well within expectations. When we were picking on 15, I don’t remember if it was ame who suggested picking spec or someone else, I just remember thinking that picking spec here required a lot of confidence, as ame had told me a few days ago that he thought the hero was trash. They then picked PA disruptor, and we all instantly thought of bloodseeker. We knew from experience that BS was a great pick into PA. However, I was quite reluctant as I didn’t like the hero as the offlane, since it’s quite hard to find farm the pos3 BS played more of a supporting role in the team, nevertheless in the end I decided to trust my team. After seeing their invoker last pick, we hesistated a bit picking tinker, though after a boost of confidence from xiao8 we decided to go ahead with the tinker last pick. There was a lot of pressure on us, as if we didn’t play well early game, our counterpicks would not be as effective lategame against a PA superbuffed by mag/voker. However, our support duo did very well early game, and we purposefully took and initiated fights in bot lane only, and we came out early game ahead. Afterwards everyone played well, and we were able to take game 3. G4 was very easy and comfortable for us, and the results showed that as well. We knew they would choose second pick and prepared accordingly. We gained back a lot of confidence after the third game. Xiao8 suggested for us to pick mag, then to play around the luna which we were already incredibly comfortable with. Every lane went well, and we all played well individually. Now finally game 5. We were all in a high and quite emotional after coming back 2-0 down, and we realised this while prepping backstage, getting ready to go on stage. Our strategy was still to first pick mag if available. We also considered what to do if they didn’t let us pick mag, or let us pick it but counterpicking, or letting us pick tiny on purpose, making us choose between mag and tiny. We had discussed this beforehand, and we agreed to prioritise tiny over the mag. We confidently picked the tiny, and after seeing them pick mag bane, we picked the lycan as well. The only thing wrong with the rest of the draft was that we probably shouldn’t have banned naga, since unlike the ursa in g1, tiny deals with naga fairly well. Coming out of the draft and into early game, we were quite confident. We had lycan+tiny, NTS on his kunkka, as well as supports that we were comfortable playing, which we had also picked according to enemy lineup as well. IIRC we had a tiny lead early game as well, having killed their TB before the lycan was even level 6. With the other two lanes going fine as well, I started to ease up with the nerves a little. As long as we didn’t throw, this game should be in the bag. Perhaps I relaxed a bit too much as a series of mistakes happened afterwards. We smoked botside and went towards top, but managed to catch no one, and tiny also got caught out bot. I got a bit nervous again. We then realised that we were unable to control the ember during fights, so we were unable to confidently take fights and push our advantage. Even though it seemed like we had the better map control, we knew this won’t last for long. Suddenly, we were in a terrible situation, it started as a stalemate, then we started getting picked off and we were slowly losing map control... honestly, I don’t remember much. I only know we tried lots of things to try and get our control back, but unfortunately nothing changed. In my opinion, we lost this game at that smoke previously mentioned. We simply lost too much of our map control because of it. I remember supporting the smoke play, and that someone said that tiny might get caught. I said ‘nah I don’t think they would be there’ then immediately after tiny was dead. There were other more minor mistakes as well, such as our skywrath not silencing the ember in time mid and let him escape, as well as taking a bad teamfight near their bot tier 2. In the end, we lost simply because we did not play well, what else can we say other than they were the better players. Taking off our headsets in the final game I self-deprecatingly said to xinq that ‘you’re now also the fireworks god’. That’s all I have to say about the games. Looking back now, I’m sorry that we were unable to live up to the expectations of our fans. We were also unhappy with the results. During these five games, it felt as if we had fell off a cliff, but managed to desperately hang onto the edge, slowly climb back up, only to lose our balance on the last step and fall back down. Though I guess results like these is what keeps eSports exciting and is what keeps me motivated to get to the top. Right now, watching team spirit from the bottom of the cliff, I’m reminded of myself at ti6, though they’ve been through much more than we did, and is a lot stronger. I truly respect and admire their performance throughout TI10. That's pretty much everything. I don't go on chinese dota 2 forums a lot so if there's any mistakes with the translation please correct me and I'll update the post
How do ya'll deal with missing out on social events / never ...
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LPT: Social skills are not only the best skills you'll ever learn but also CRUCIAL to success.
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They trump all other skills. Someone with great social skills and less technical ability is going to always win over someone without social skills and great technical ability.
No skill will be greater in your tool belt than social skills. Anywhere from tech to retail, to trades. You must learn to communicate properly and effectively. How to sell yourself and your ideas. How to present to a group. How to make friends with your colleagues and have a good relationship with them. Having a great relationship with your boss and being able to impress them. Presenting ideas to your team or your superiors in a way that they will understand and is entertaining is always going to win.
There are lots of clubs and groups like toastmasters that can help you develop them. The key is to practice as often as you can. Learning these skills is CRUCIAL to your success both in professional and personal development. You're only socially awkward cause you haven't had the practice or learned the tools to be socially proficient.
Top Comment: This is absolutely true. If people don’t like you, you’re going to have a tough time. I’ve seen brilliant people fail because they were arrogant and rude, and slackers get promoted because they were funny and everyone liked them.